Courage kills gutless

The money monster gutless wants to keep you tongue tied and speechless, never ever telling anyone what great work you do...asking for a sale, which means telling prospective clients what work you do, that is something this money monster wants you to feel is foolish, too bold, too aggressive, and when you DONT speak, he reminds you just how gutless you really are. Here's the thing:  what if you your work has such magnificent impact on others that by not speaking, you are practically stealing from them?  What if it is your unique and wonderful offering that that one person you just spoke to needs in order to live their life more fully, and they slipped away because you let gutless talk you out of doing what you were meant to do?  People are suffering and dying slow deaths of unspoken and yet very tangible misgivings, unhappiness, anxiety...don't let gutless turn you into someone who let's opportunity pass you by, get out Courage, speak your offering and maybe you will play a really integral part in helping someone out of their misery.  

More Where That Came From...

There's more where that came from, have you ever heard this expression?  The money monster dried up hates this expression!   Think about this:  money comes, money goes, and it always feels like there isn't enough, for MOST people, are you like most people?  If money comes and goes, it would appear that there is real flow, wouldn't it?  Wanting to hold on to it, keep it when it hits your hot little hands, that is when flow gets interrupted.  Keep it for WHAT?  Here is the thing, if you have a job, food, shelter and money is "tight", check your grip, what are you holding on to so tightly that it makes your knuckles white?  Does this change your paycheck dollar amount?  Will you eat less today or perhaps lose your home? What will happen if you loosen your grip?  What would happen if you let go?  Let's say the money actually does dry up, then what?  If this particular money monster harasses you, challenge him, tell him that you would make it in life, you will survive, no matter what is thrown your way. More, there is always more where that came from...

Twin money monsters, accommodating and compromise

Sometimes we need a yes, a nod to go ahead and this puts one in the position of getting this green light from another, someone who has the power to say yea or nay. Depending on the want, a person might compromise their values, schedule, stated priorities to ACCOMODATE this yes. This is dangerous ground and while the money monster compromise would have you and I believe that this is what we must do to get our needs met, there is a part in this scenario that is damaging.  It's like the yes person has the loaf of bread and whatever crumbs he/she throws your way/my way, is good enough and we should be grateful. Blahhhhhhh, gross, disgusting and NO money monster compromise~a trail of bread crumbs that must be followed and pecked at on a path of someone else's creation is NOT my path. Here's a tip:  if it feels like you are compromising what is important to you to satisfy a need by accepting someone else's conditions, then chances are that's what is going on. Recalibrating and doing a quick what's really important to me self check in PLUS acknowledging that you are talented and the boss of your own destiny will help you kick compromise and it's devious twin money monster accommodating to the curb. This is dedicated to my FAITH sistah, you know who you are H.B.

Who do you work for?

What and who are you working for?  Oh the trap of self absorption, the what I will get out of this deal, dilemma. Working for money is kinda of a strange concept when you think about it?  It's the boss that never looks you in the eye and says good job, well done, let's do this again tomorrow!  There are two people that come to mind that are amazing competent hard working employees and their biggest heart ache is the cruelty with which their employers treat human beings for the sake of making more money~the lack of appreciation for their hard work is painful for them and they have both come to realize that a pat on the back with an atta girl/boy, will never come. They both get pay checks and yet somehow, they are clearly NOT working for money. I read once that one of the main reasons for quiting a place of employment was that the values of the company did not align with the values of the employee, regardless of the rate of pay.  Working for someone appears to be the gem in the equation along with a sense of satisfaction that your work is well done AND appreciated, acknowledged. I work for clients...what and who do you work for?

Love People Not money

Love is, higher than a mountain, love is, thicker than water~these lyrics come from a Bee Gees song and they are playing in my head on the heels of two amazing coaching sessions. I love my work and it loves me.  This kills the money monster that wants my love to go to it, loving it, money, instead of the people I work with and for.  Things do not inspire love, they are not worthy of love because they are not capable of feeling it, receiving it, returning it.  This love money money monster is a wicked liar and would have you and I travel the path of longing and chasing after what isn't real and has no value in and of itself~money only has worth, value, when given in exchange for something else.  Did I get paid for coaching, yes I did.  Am I glad for the payments, yes I am.  I worked and in return I was rewarded, that's what money represents to me.  Love people, not money, and money will find you.

The Money Monster "you"

Here's the order of business. You have a service to offer; you must have clients to be of service and in return, they pay you.  Let's say you create an opportunity to invite a potential client to try your services and they agree to a sample. This can be the beginning of a mutually beneficial arrangement because for what ever reason, this person has agreed to meet with you and try out whatever service you are offering. You met, they get it, they like the service and something has ignited in them and they want more...YOUR TURN, you must at this point ask for the business. Let's assume YOU assume they will say yes, this calls for an assumptive close and it sounds and looks something like this "so we will be working together", nod nod.  There is absolutely no reason for you to think otherwise if all has gone well with the potential client. People like confidence and if they have given an initial yes to a sample, they may just be looking for the answer your service and only YOUR service can provide.  Don't let fear of a no stand in the way of the jubilation of a yes, for your client.  It's not about you and don't let the money monster "you" get in the way.  

Fighting For Value

My husband is a real estate agent and today during an initial meeting with a client, the client asked if he would consider reducing his commission. He stated "no, I won't, in fact I'm not charging you enough, that's how much I value my services.  See how I'm fighting for myself right now, image how I'll fight for you and your money with potential buyers". Isn't this what we all want, someone who will fight for us, have our best interests at heart when we hire them to do work for us?  This is my commitment, my staying power to deliver what a client wants and asks for, and hopefully more. The money monster devalue tries to convince us that our worth is measured in dollars and cents and while money is a useful tool for giving and getting, it has nothing to do with value, contribution, commitment and deliverance.  Fighting for yourself models strength and in the case of my husband, it is an offer to clients to trust in his abilities and commitment to fight for them too.  Money has energy, in the hands of the holder...think on that one money monster devalue, as you whither and slither your way back into the dirt where you belong.